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There is no faster, more effective way to fill the gap between where you are and where you aspire to be than having the right passionate and supportive people around you. There is no bigger life hack. Our environment is everything. And it’s 100 percent in our control. But it can be intimidating to change our surroundings, and most of us are scared to change. The Right People We know how many things could be possible if we changed our surroundings. We’ve heard stories of the changes people have made, the businesses they’ve built, the weight they’ve lost, the lovers they’ve met, and the things they’ve experienced – just as a result of connecting with the right people. So why are we not tackling this? We have all kinds of reasons why we don’t reach out and make the connections we could – you don’t live in a big city, you’re an introvert, you’re not worthy, you have nothing to offer, you don’t know where to start…so you do nothing, and the gap between dreams a

Everybody gets angry, but out-of-control rage isn't good for you or those around you. When you can't control your anger, you may get into fist-fights or drive recklessly, for example, endangering yourself and others. But anger also plays havoc with your own body. Research shows that anger can increase people's — especially men's — chances of developing coronary heart disease and having worse outcomes if they already have heart disease. 1  Anger can also lead to stress-related problems, such as insomnia, digestive problems, and headaches. You can learn to control your anger, however. In one study for example, cognitive-behavioral therapy improved people's control of their anger and reduced their hostility, aggression, and depression. 2 Here are some strategies you can use to simmer down. If you are in a relationship with a hot-tempered partner, you could both benefit from these techniques.

 Effective, confident public speaking should look effortless. In reality most people need considerable time and practice before they can talk confidently in front of an audience. You can use a number of techniques to overcome stage fright, present yourself confidently and keep your audience engaged. The audience is on your side. People want you to succeed; they don’t want to waste their time listening to a boring presentation. You are in a position of power: you have the knowledge that everyone wants to acquire. Avoid signs of nerves during your speech Think of yourself as someone who is sharing valuable information with willing listeners. Don’t get so worked up about how you will come across in your nervous state: Audiences can rarely detect anxiety in a speaker who claims to be very nervous. It seems much worse to you than your listeners. As long as you appear calm, it doesn’t really matter that you’re feeling nervous. Avoid these telltale signs of

Role models are highly important for us psychologically, helping to guide us through life during our development, to make important decisions that affect the outcome of our lives, and to help us find happiness in later life.  When we are growing up we look to our role models for inspiration and use this as a blueprint for how we should behave when we’re older. This is likely a survival function designed to help us to mimic the traits of those successful members of our society and thereby help us to be successful too. At the same time in later life its thought that our happiness is very much based on our perception of how our life should or could be and the gap between that and how it is in reality. In other words it’s striving for that same kind of success and achieving it that brings us happiness or otherwise when we’re older. This is called ‘actualization’ by Goldstein. 

Creativity is like a muscle. It must be stretched, challenged, and occasionally pushed past its comfort zone. Here are nine ways you can dramatically improve your creativity: 1. Learn Through Collaboration Curiosity will lead you to creativity. Andrew Ng, formerly of Google and now of Baidu, is one who doesn't believe innovation is due to unpredictable flashes of genius. Rather, he said you can become more creative and innovative systematically. "In my own life, I found that whenever I wasn't sure what to do next, I would go and learn a lot, read a lot, talk to experts. I don't know how the human brain works but it's almost magical: when you read enough or talk to enough experts, when you have enough inputs, new ideas start appearing." Indeed, collaborating with and learning from others may be just what you need to give your creativity a boost. 2. Do Something You Love Stuck for ideas? Not sure what to do? Your lif

Self-confident people are admired by others and inspire confidence in others. They face their fears head-on and tend to be risk takers. They know that no matter what obstacles come their way, they have the ability to get past them. Self-confident people tend to see their lives in a positive light even when things aren't going so well, and they are typically satisfied with and respect themselves. Wouldn't it be amazing to have this kind of self-confidence, every day of the week? Guess what? You can. "Low self-confidence isn't a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered--just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better." --Barrie Davenport It comes down to one simple question: If you don't believe in yourself, how do you expect anybody else to? Try some of the tips listed below. Don't just read them and put them on the back burner. Really begin to pra

Whether you consciously aware of it or not, on some level you are continually leading yourself and others – you don’t necessarily have to have a large team reporting to you to be considered a leader and to need effective leadership skills. In one leadership study, qualities such as assertiveness, adaptability, intelligence and conscientiousness were cited as the most important leadership skills. Research clearly shows that transformational leaders – leaders who are positive, inspiring, and who empower and develop followers – are better leaders. They are more valued by followers and have higher performing teams. As a result, it would only make sense that you strive to improve your leadership skills and get the most out of life for everyone in your sphere. Consider these 11 tips for how to improve your leadership skills so to become a better leader and think about ways that you can implement these strategies in your daily life at work. 1. Have a clear v