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Being exposed to trauma or abuse as a child or an adult can severely injure the human mind such that almost everyone appears to be a potential threat to our well-being. It makes us create mental walls that isolate us from fully experiencing beautiful realities and new opportunities. Evolution has taught us to be defensive or protective for our survival and this dates back to primitive times when we humans were constantly living under threat from wild animals. But today we live in safe cities with people who are mostly unarmed and we still feel like we are being hunted, this is not the best way to live - it's abnormal. Critical thinking is not negative thinking. Negative thinking is feeling like people are out to get us or the world's against us. Critical thinking on the other hand is considering the kind of impact that our actions or inaction under certain circumstances can have on us. To avoid being victims of our own perspectives, it is essential that we always keep an open-m...

Do you know that living positive remains a mirage until you stop allowing negative ideas and images influence how you see, think, feel and act. Your mind is a computer, you only process the programs you store on it. Be extra careful about the things and people that constantly influence you, because what/who influences you impacts how you think, how you think impacts how you feel, how you feel impacts how you act, how you act often becomes a habit, your habits become your character, and your character determines your destiny. Over a period of time, you become a product of what influenced you. The good news however is - you can reprogram your mind and re-direct your life by simply allowing the right things to influence you. How do you know what is right from what is wrong? What is right will never steal your joy, peace and agape love.

I spoke with a young man in the neighborhood yesterday evening.  He told me that he was diagnosed with depression after a few sessions and a test with a psychiatrist. This young man still in his early 20s, said that he had a very low self-esteem and often thought deeply about what was wrong with him because some of his age mates and friends in the neighborhood were already driving their own cars and spending money lavishly. He said sometimes he felt he was being watched, mocked, and judged. I did emphasize with him. But I also made him understand that he had the power to choose his mood, feelings, and thoughts. He immediately agreed and confirmed that the psychiatrist had actually said exactly the same thing. You see, in the world today a lot of people actually look fine on the outside but are severely battling with their sanity on the inside. So be kind to people, check up on them, and listen to them. The simple act of giving them a listening ear, might just be all they need to st...

As a man, it is okay to - cry, express your honest feelings, admit that you are wrong, share your struggles with friends, look attractive, and tell people that you love them. It's a human thing, not a woman's thing. So my dear African male, let 2022 be the year that you stop TOXIC MASCULINITY. DO NOT DIE IN SILENCE, LIVE!

”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” – George Bernard Shaw  Should you stop worrying today because you can't have everything under control, no matter how well you plan? Hmm, let's see...  Sometimes, we make life and at other times life makes us. But this often depends on the choices we make, and how we respond to circumstances both within and outside our locus-of-control.  Everything we worry about falls into two prevalent categories: i. The Things We Can Change: this comprises of our reactions, decisions, actions, attitudes, habits, style, environment, quality of life and beliefs. ii. The Things We Can't Change: this comprises of facts, chance occurrences, and other people's philosophies of life.  Hence, judging from the insights above we need never have to worry about nothing if we can or cannot change it. However, what we should do instead of indulging the act, worrying; are: practicing mindful...

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." — Mark Twain  Did you know that an estimated 70% of people experience " Impostor Syndrome " at some point in their lives, according to a review article published in the International Journal of Behavioral Science.  Yes, more often than not we fail to see how much this feeling of self-doubt suppresses our courage to go after new opportunities, explore potential areas of interest, and put ourselves out there in a meaningful way. Impostor Syndrome, the idea that you’ve only succeeded due to luck and not because of your talent or qualifications; was adopted by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, after studies showed that despite obvious adequate external evidence of accomplishments, most successful people remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have and often dismiss it as luck, good timing, or as others’ believing they were smar...

Research has shown that social media distorts our perception of reality and of what other people’s lives really look like. However, the major challenge/misconception is that we take into account how we’re doing in life through comparisons to everyone else, and since most people only post positive things on social media, that gives us a very biased perception of reality…for example, If we are constantly exposed to great news, we risk evaluating our own lives as less good. There have also been plenty of studies that reveal correlations between heavier social media use and depression, feelings of envy, isolation and lower self-esteem. Nevertheless, I believe social media is also a great self-development platform which spurs positive exposure to several forms of life-enhancing information (resources/contents), and also serves as a great avenue through which we all can connect healthily to those who we love, look up to and appreciate. In conclusion, I believe...

Wow! Yesterday was fantastic for me because after church service (yes, this article was written before Covid19), I took a walk in the park with a friend of mine who I had not seen in years since I graduated high school. We talked, observed nature, laughed, and also got to learn some new stuff from each other - it was one of the best times I've had in a long time and it also inspired me to write this piece...  Enjoy!  Being outdoors is fun, but even more importantly, it’s good for the brain, body, and soul. Scientific studies reveal that what we see, hear, or experience at any point in time does not only alter our mood, but also how our nervous, endocrine, and immune systems function. YOU SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE BECAUSE: Nature Soothes: Scientists believe that breathing in phytoncides which are airborne chemicals produced by plants increases our levels of white blood cells, helping us fight off infections and diseases. Over the years rece...

Thoughts don't cancel out thoughts, but contrary actions/affirmations can.  No matter what it is you're struggling with, you are not alone and you can heal. Ignorance is a silent killer.  Never settle for less, you are not cheap.  Do what you find doing with all the positive energy in you.  Don't hold on too tight to what you need to let go off, and move on fast afterwards. 

2 Corinthians 12:7-10 New King James Version (NKJV) The Thorn in the Flesh & God's Sufficient Grace  7 And lest I should be exalted above measure by the abundance of the revelations, a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan to [a]buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure. 8 Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. 9 And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.  God's Grace Is Ever Sufficient For You, No Matter The Pain or Circumstance. FACEBOOK