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  Delegate or Subcontract What You're Not Good At 👇🏾 Yes, this is exactly what the smartest achievers do because they are smart and self-aware enough to channel their effort towards work that they excel at, whilst delegating or subcontracting the rest to competent people. For example: Top companies on the Fortune and Forbes lists are known to hire external specialists from MBB or the Big 4 firms to work on certain projects in order to get optimum results. By delegating and subcontracting work you're not good at to more competent folks, you: - Have more free time to yourself - Become better at what you are already good at - Give others the opportunity to shine and thrive - Develop high-quality relationships, and - Easily earn the kind of reputation that makes people willing to support you. See, the easiest way to become a successful person is to help other people excel at what they're good at. Give people the opportunity to showcase and share their unique talents and skil

  Don't turn off your Whatsapp read receipts, do this instead... You see, while turning off your Whatsapp read receipt allows you to read WhatsApp messages without making it apparent to the sender, it can also be a sign that you lack confidence or worse, give your contacts the impression that you aren't a reliable ally. In simple terms, a WhatsApp read receipt refers to the two blue checkmarks  ✓  you see when your recipient reads your message on Whatsapp. However, if your recipient turns off their read receipts you only get to see two grey checkmarks  ✓  even after they have read your Whatsapp message, plus the time they read your message will not be available to you. So in a nutshell, the read receipts must be enabled on both sides to view the message read information. Strangely, WhatsApp voice messages treat read receipts uniquely  .... Thank me later. For instance, if you send a voice message of 2 seconds or more to a person who has their read receipts off, you will still s

If you are like most people there is a high chance that you find it easy to name all the things you don't want, but you find it difficult to name the things you honestly want. This is because knowing what you really want requires a lot more effort on your path. To know what it is that you want, you must be mindful. You must understand who you really are. Knowing who you truly are may require that you: - Focus on yourself more - Observe how you react/respond to situations - Have a clear understanding of your personal values, strengths, and deal breakers - Stop living on autopilot, and - Stop comparing yourself with other people in ways that drain you. So today and for the next couple of weeks, I encourage you to pay attention to yourself more in order to truly understand what it is you really want for yourself and go after it with faith. Remember, no company sets a goal by focusing on what they don't want. Likewise, if your goal is to be happy in life then you must know exa

Being exposed to trauma or abuse as a child or an adult can severely injure the human mind such that almost everyone appears to be a potential threat to our well-being. It makes us create mental walls that isolate us from fully experiencing beautiful realities and new opportunities. Evolution has taught us to be defensive or protective for our survival and this dates back to primitive times when we humans were constantly living under threat from wild animals. But today we live in safe cities with people who are mostly unarmed and we still feel like we are being hunted, this is not the best way to live - it's abnormal. Critical thinking is not negative thinking. Negative thinking is feeling like people are out to get us or the world's against us. Critical thinking on the other hand is considering the kind of impact that our actions or inaction under certain circumstances can have on us. To avoid being victims of our own perspectives, it is essential that we always keep an open-m

I spoke with a young man in the neighborhood yesterday evening.  He told me that he was diagnosed with depression after a few sessions and a test with a psychiatrist. This young man still in his early 20s, said that he had a very low self-esteem and often thought deeply about what was wrong with him because some of his age mates and friends in the neighborhood were already driving their own cars and spending money lavishly. He said sometimes he felt he was being watched, mocked, and judged. I did emphasize with him. But I also made him understand that he had the power to choose his mood, feelings, and thoughts. He immediately agreed and confirmed that the psychiatrist had actually said exactly the same thing. You see, in the world today a lot of people actually look fine on the outside but are severely battling with their sanity on the inside. So be kind to people, check up on them, and listen to them. The simple act of giving them a listening ear, might just be all they need to stay a

The most consistent truth I've discovered from reading the Holy BIBLE for over two decades is the fact that, practically speaking - everything GOD approves is truly good, and everything GOD does not approve is truly bad for us humans.  Most important of all is that LOVE is supernatural. It is how we create our own magic (not tricks, but real magic). Each time you do things out of God's LOVE, you make the supernatural happen in our natural world. Get the Holy BIBLE online or physical, and read 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 to understand what LOVE really means, it's significance, what it entails, and what you stand to benefit from acting in the supernatural force called LOVE. 

Wow! Time flies fast. Memories from the 5th day (in November) last year, 2019, remain fresh in my mind. It was my very first day at the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) orientation camp where I met several others like myself who had left the comfort of their homes/families for sake of fulfillment, excitement or perhaps sheer necessity; to experience something different from the predictability of college life. Apparently, my first 60 hours staying at the camp were not as fun as I thought it should be... Perhaps I wasn't the only one who felt this way after realizing that: one had to share a room which was poorly ventilated with 29 others of akin gender, one also had to leave anything one was doing to report to the parade ground immediately one heard the sound of the loud beagle, one would be all dressed in white 98% of the three weeks one had to spend in camp, one wasn't always guaranteed access to running water nor a socket for re-charging essential devices. By w

”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” – George Bernard Shaw  Should you stop worrying today because you can't have everything under control, no matter how well you plan? Hmm, let's see...  Sometimes, we make life and at other times life makes us. But this often depends on the choices we make, and how we respond to circumstances both within and outside our locus-of-control.  Everything we worry about falls into two prevalent categories: i. The Things We Can Change: this comprises of our reactions, decisions, actions, attitudes, habits, style, environment, quality of life and beliefs. ii. The Things We Can't Change: this comprises of facts, chance occurrences, and other people's philosophies of life.  Hence, judging from the insights above we need never have to worry about nothing if we can or cannot change it. However, what we should do instead of indulging the act, worrying; are: practicing mindfulnes

LOVE is not "if" or "because," LOVE is "anyway" and "even though" and "in spite of." ~ Anonymous There are two ways to rate your relationships or friendships, they are: (A)Conditional, and (B) Unconditional.  (A) Conditional : These are relationships or friendships which are solely based on "I-will-do-this-for-you-if-you-do-this-for-me" and are often entered into unconsciously. Sadly, they are all smoke and mirrors where you never actually know who the other person is. The pitfall with conditional relationships is often that they inherently prioritize something else above the relationship. For example, a scenario where : it’s not really you they care about, but your fantastically beautiful face and figure, or your generosity and resourcefulness. Hence, conditional relationships are more of a "it’s not really you I care about, but rather using you to make me feel good about myself" thing.