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LOVE is not "if" or "because," LOVE is "anyway" and "even though" and "in spite of." ~ Anonymous There are two ways to rate your relationships or friendships, they are: (A)Conditional, and (B) Unconditional.  (A) Conditional : These are relationships or friendships which are solely based on "I-will-do-this-for-you-if-you-do-this-for-me" and are often entered into unconsciously. Sadly, they are all smoke and mirrors where you never actually know who the other person is. The pitfall with conditional relationships is often that they inherently prioritize something else above the relationship. For example, a scenario where : it’s not really you they care about, but your fantastically beautiful face and figure, or your generosity and resourcefulness. Hence, conditional relationships are more of a "it’s not really you I care about, but rather using you to make me feel good about myself" thing.

The concept of digital well-being revolves around creating and sustaining a healthy relationship with technology, which has become a part of our daily lives. It involves how technology can serve us and move us closer towards our goals rather than distract us from our goals and make us unproductive. Maintaining a healthy digital diet helps us to improve our relationship not just in our private life, but also at work.  You see, in this age, technology is such an important part of our lives, that it's unreasonable to talk about disconnecting from it entirely.   Hence, it becomes crucial for us to consciously gain control over our digital habits and digital behaviors, as this will enable us to actually find the right balance that works for us. Nevertheless, some options that can help you consciously improve your relationship with technology are: 1. Digital Guidelines: These refer to apps or specific technologies, designed to help you get greater digital control. 

Research has shown that social media distorts our perception of reality and of what other people’s lives really look like. However, the major challenge/misconception is that we take into account how we’re doing in life through comparisons to everyone else, and since most people only post positive things on social media, that gives us a very biased perception of reality…for example, If we are constantly exposed to great news, we risk evaluating our own lives as less good. There have also been plenty of studies that reveal correlations between heavier social media use and depression, feelings of envy, isolation and lower self-esteem. Nevertheless, I believe social media is also a great self-development platform which spurs positive exposure to several forms of life-enhancing information (resources/contents), and also serves as a great avenue through which we all can connect healthily to those who we love, look up to and appreciate. In conclusion, I believe

Wow! Yesterday was fantastic for me because after church service (yes, this article was written before Covid19), I took a walk in the park with a friend of mine who I had not seen in years since I graduated high school. We talked, observed nature, laughed, and also got to learn some new stuff from each other - it was one of the best times I've had in a long time and it also inspired me to write this piece...  Enjoy!  Being outdoors is fun, but even more importantly, it’s good for the brain, body, and soul. Scientific studies reveal that what we see, hear, or experience at any point in time does not only alter our mood, but also how our nervous, endocrine, and immune systems function. YOU SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE BECAUSE: Nature Soothes: Scientists believe that breathing in phytoncides which are airborne chemicals produced by plants increases our levels of white blood cells, helping us fight off infections and diseases. Over the years recent st

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” ~ Harlan Ellison As humans, we’re often defensive or even scared of things we don’t understand, know little - nothing about, or things we will never understand because we aren’t affected by them directly nor indirectly. The only way out is to unlearn our prejudices and learn to be accepting of others if we truly care about ourselves and want to get the best out of others. Labeling others can make us feel more superior, but that’s not a good habit to get into. In utmost simplicity, the term " LABELING " means to incompletely describe someone or something by using a word or a short phrase to highlight one particular trait of that person over their other traits. For example, describing a person as "toxic" and negating other positive truths about them.  Researchers began to study the cognitive effects of "labeling" in t

It is better to be out of your mind if it has always been in a NEGATIVE state, let go, close your eyes, breathe and dive into a world of beautiful possibilities. The world isn't against you, but rather, your thoughts, experiences and beliefs are against you - remember, how you choose to live your life is your business, live it WELL.  The HOLY SPIRIT is contemporary.  Be the light and the salt it's more rewarding. ❤️

We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are. ~ Anais Nin _____ The word perception comes from the Latin "perception-, percepio ," meaning "receiving, collecting, action of taking possession, apprehension" with the mind or senses. In contemporary psychology, perception is the brain’s interpretation of sensory information so as to give meaning to it. In the field of psychology, the Implicit Personality Theory acknowledges the patterns we use in forming impressions about other people, despite having minute information about them. According to Aronson et al, 2010; social perception refers to the ability to make accurate interpretations and inferences about other people from their general physical appearance, verbal, and nonverbal patterns of communication. However certain factors come into play to shape or even distort perception, which domicile in: In the perceiver; these include the perceiver's Att