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Isn't it funny how successful some people brand themselves to be on the internet, and constantly exude a persona which makes you feel like you're lagging behind in life; until you actually see them struggling in reality and then realize what grave mistake you made thinking so poorly about the progress you've been making in your life. My dear you see, you're not alone in this self-imposed comparison trap - almost everybody is guilty of this. But don't get me wrong, comparison isn't a bad thing in itself, but how we choose to go about it. You would agree with me that not all fingers are equal, you would also agree with me that variety is the spice of life; well, if we're on the same page then you'd further agree with me on the fact that our personal values, talents, abilities and areas of peak performance differ. What then is the essence of being bitter about not having something that doesn't truly define your uniqueness.  Ou

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." — Mark Twain  Did you know that an estimated 70% of people experience " Impostor Syndrome " at some point in their lives, according to a review article published in the International Journal of Behavioral Science.  Yes, more often than not we fail to see how much this feeling of self-doubt suppresses our courage to go after new opportunities, explore potential areas of interest, and put ourselves out there in a meaningful way. Impostor Syndrome, the idea that you’ve only succeeded due to luck and not because of your talent or qualifications; was adopted by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, after studies showed that despite obvious adequate external evidence of accomplishments, most successful people remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have and often dismiss it as luck, good timing, or as others’ believing they were smar

LOVE is not "if" or "because," LOVE is "anyway" and "even though" and "in spite of." ~ Anonymous There are two ways to rate your relationships or friendships, they are: (A)Conditional, and (B) Unconditional.  (A) Conditional : These are relationships or friendships which are solely based on "I-will-do-this-for-you-if-you-do-this-for-me" and are often entered into unconsciously. Sadly, they are all smoke and mirrors where you never actually know who the other person is. The pitfall with conditional relationships is often that they inherently prioritize something else above the relationship. For example, a scenario where : it’s not really you they care about, but your fantastically beautiful face and figure, or your generosity and resourcefulness. Hence, conditional relationships are more of a "it’s not really you I care about, but rather using you to make me feel good about myself" thing.

The concept of digital well-being revolves around creating and sustaining a healthy relationship with technology, which has become a part of our daily lives. It involves how technology can serve us and move us closer towards our goals rather than distract us from our goals and make us unproductive. Maintaining a healthy digital diet helps us to improve our relationship not just in our private life, but also at work.  You see, in this age, technology is such an important part of our lives, that it's unreasonable to talk about disconnecting from it entirely.   Hence, it becomes crucial for us to consciously gain control over our digital habits and digital behaviors, as this will enable us to actually find the right balance that works for us. Nevertheless, some options that can help you consciously improve your relationship with technology are: 1. Digital Guidelines: These refer to apps or specific technologies, designed to help you get greater digital control. 

Research has shown that social media distorts our perception of reality and of what other people’s lives really look like. However, the major challenge/misconception is that we take into account how we’re doing in life through comparisons to everyone else, and since most people only post positive things on social media, that gives us a very biased perception of reality…for example, If we are constantly exposed to great news, we risk evaluating our own lives as less good. There have also been plenty of studies that reveal correlations between heavier social media use and depression, feelings of envy, isolation and lower self-esteem. Nevertheless, I believe social media is also a great self-development platform which spurs positive exposure to several forms of life-enhancing information (resources/contents), and also serves as a great avenue through which we all can connect healthily to those who we love, look up to and appreciate. In conclusion, I believe

Wow! Yesterday was fantastic for me because after church service (yes, this article was written before Covid19), I took a walk in the park with a friend of mine who I had not seen in years since I graduated high school. We talked, observed nature, laughed, and also got to learn some new stuff from each other - it was one of the best times I've had in a long time and it also inspired me to write this piece...  Enjoy!  Being outdoors is fun, but even more importantly, it’s good for the brain, body, and soul. Scientific studies reveal that what we see, hear, or experience at any point in time does not only alter our mood, but also how our nervous, endocrine, and immune systems function. YOU SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE BECAUSE: Nature Soothes: Scientists believe that breathing in phytoncides which are airborne chemicals produced by plants increases our levels of white blood cells, helping us fight off infections and diseases. Over the years recent st

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” ~ Harlan Ellison As humans, we’re often defensive or even scared of things we don’t understand, know little - nothing about, or things we will never understand because we aren’t affected by them directly nor indirectly. The only way out is to unlearn our prejudices and learn to be accepting of others if we truly care about ourselves and want to get the best out of others. Labeling others can make us feel more superior, but that’s not a good habit to get into. In utmost simplicity, the term " LABELING " means to incompletely describe someone or something by using a word or a short phrase to highlight one particular trait of that person over their other traits. For example, describing a person as "toxic" and negating other positive truths about them.  Researchers began to study the cognitive effects of "labeling" in t