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There are two of you in you, let both coexist; because you can survive, but not live with a single identity. ~ Tapan Ghosh An alter-ego is a second-self, the opposite of who you usually are and your presonality; it is a persona created by an individual–usually to live out a better version of the self. For example, A few years back, American singer and songwriter Beyoncé Knowles created an alter-ego which she named Sasha Fierce. She described Sasha as being fun, sensual, glamorous, and aggressive. Beyoncé let Sasha out when she was on stage. This AE protected Beyoncé’s self-identify as someone who was reserved and very ladylike.  Likewise, in comic books, Peter Parker works as a photographer for the Daily Bugle but, has a crime-fighting AE who makes an appearance when needed, Spider-man. Jane McGonigal, PhD, explains in her book "SuperBetter: The Power of Living Game fully" that alter-egos can help give us distance from ourselves. This can help us deal better wit...

In my humble opinion, I think it's always more rewarding when people take job offers in industries that they can have fun at - yes! fun, work should always be play because those few who truly excel and stand out in their industry are those who play their best game in a field where many basically just work.  You know what's worse than fooling others - right, fooling yourself. It's nice to welcome people's good wishes and standards for you, but you will almost never feel as fulfilled in life as much as when you follow your core childhood dreams. Majority of our most productive years would be spent at work, therefore it is important that we choose career paths or accept jobs that we truly are wired for - in terms of natural abilities.  Stop playing it safe, stop doing it to have others' approval, stop doing it to impress - Start doing it for you, for impact, for the audience that really wants to have a piece of your uniqueness.  Your childhood interests, pa...

Progress and Productivity are never the same thing as being "Busy" - you can actually be very busy and still remain stuck at the same level for eon, and that's not the same as being productive. Presently, we live in a world where tonnes of "life-transforming" information and resources can be accessed in just about a short period of time; from eBooks, to videos, and podcasts, literally there's no excuse not to make progress in the direction you truly desire at this time in history.  The underlying problem with this information overload is, over-consumption of unnecessary-yet-irresistible information can leave you directionless in life. Yes my dear, it is true that no knowledge is a waste; but have you ever stopped to consider how much you stunt growth in your true-north (areas of greater impact)  by jumping at every opportunity presented to you. I get it, you mostly jump at these opportunities for fear of missing out or be...

Isn't it funny how successful some people brand themselves to be on the internet, and constantly exude a persona which makes you feel like you're lagging behind in life; until you actually see them struggling in reality and then realize what grave mistake you made thinking so poorly about the progress you've been making in your life. My dear you see, you're not alone in this self-imposed comparison trap - almost everybody is guilty of this. But don't get me wrong, comparison isn't a bad thing in itself, but how we choose to go about it. You would agree with me that not all fingers are equal, you would also agree with me that variety is the spice of life; well, if we're on the same page then you'd further agree with me on the fact that our personal values, talents, abilities and areas of peak performance differ. What then is the essence of being bitter about not having something that doesn't truly define your uniqueness.  Ou...

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." — Mark Twain  Did you know that an estimated 70% of people experience " Impostor Syndrome " at some point in their lives, according to a review article published in the International Journal of Behavioral Science.  Yes, more often than not we fail to see how much this feeling of self-doubt suppresses our courage to go after new opportunities, explore potential areas of interest, and put ourselves out there in a meaningful way. Impostor Syndrome, the idea that you’ve only succeeded due to luck and not because of your talent or qualifications; was adopted by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, after studies showed that despite obvious adequate external evidence of accomplishments, most successful people remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have and often dismiss it as luck, good timing, or as others’ believing they were smar...

LOVE is not "if" or "because," LOVE is "anyway" and "even though" and "in spite of." ~ Anonymous There are two ways to rate your relationships or friendships, they are: (A)Conditional, and (B) Unconditional.  (A) Conditional : These are relationships or friendships which are solely based on "I-will-do-this-for-you-if-you-do-this-for-me" and are often entered into unconsciously. Sadly, they are all smoke and mirrors where you never actually know who the other person is. The pitfall with conditional relationships is often that they inherently prioritize something else above the relationship. For example, a scenario where : it’s not really you they care about, but your fantastically beautiful face and figure, or your generosity and resourcefulness. Hence, conditional relationships are more of a "it’s not really you I care about, but rather using you to make me feel good about myself" thing. ...

The concept of digital well-being revolves around creating and sustaining a healthy relationship with technology, which has become a part of our daily lives. It involves how technology can serve us and move us closer towards our goals rather than distract us from our goals and make us unproductive. Maintaining a healthy digital diet helps us to improve our relationship not just in our private life, but also at work.  You see, in this age, technology is such an important part of our lives, that it's unreasonable to talk about disconnecting from it entirely.   Hence, it becomes crucial for us to consciously gain control over our digital habits and digital behaviors, as this will enable us to actually find the right balance that works for us. Nevertheless, some options that can help you consciously improve your relationship with technology are: 1. Digital Guidelines: These refer to apps or specific technologies, designed to help you get greater digital...