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The most consistent truth I've discovered from reading the Holy BIBLE for over two decades is the fact that, practically speaking - everything GOD approves is truly good, and everything GOD does not approve is truly bad for us humans.  Most important of all is that LOVE is supernatural. It is how we create our own magic (not tricks, but real magic). Each time you do things out of God's LOVE, you make the supernatural happen in our natural world. Get the Holy BIBLE online or physical, and read 1 Corinthians 13:1-13 to understand what LOVE really means, it's significance, what it entails, and what you stand to benefit from acting in the supernatural force called LOVE. 

Wow! Time flies fast. Memories from the 5th day (in November) last year, 2019, remain fresh in my mind. It was my very first day at the National Youth Service Corps (NYSC) orientation camp where I met several others like myself who had left the comfort of their homes/families for sake of fulfillment, excitement or perhaps sheer necessity; to experience something different from the predictability of college life. Apparently, my first 60 hours staying at the camp were not as fun as I thought it should be... Perhaps I wasn't the only one who felt this way after realizing that: one had to share a room which was poorly ventilated with 29 others of akin gender, one also had to leave anything one was doing to report to the parade ground immediately one heard the sound of the loud beagle, one would be all dressed in white 98% of the three weeks one had to spend in camp, one wasn't always guaranteed access to running water nor a socket for re-charging essential devices. By w

The life you acquired or were born into isn't yours. Forget about your age, quit bench-marking your life against that of other people, your life hasn't started yet; so don't be mad desperate to get out of your acquired life in a hurry such that you inflict damage on your soul for eon or sell your freedom and peace of mind in the interim. Be patient with yourself, the purpose of life is to evolve at your own pace. Take all the time you need - learn, unlearn, relearn and equip your mind with all empowering knowledge, principles and models to help you build a solid, decent and healthy life for your true self, your higher self, the you that you actually are. Notwithstanding, if you now realize that you already made some terrible decisions and choices with your life; my dear, you're not alone and everyone makes mistakes, but understand this "it's not your fault and there's not a much better time than now to turn a new leaf." ... "The bl

”People become attached to their burdens sometimes more than the burdens are attached to them.” – George Bernard Shaw  Should you stop worrying today because you can't have everything under control, no matter how well you plan? Hmm, let's see...  Sometimes, we make life and at other times life makes us. But this often depends on the choices we make, and how we respond to circumstances both within and outside our locus-of-control.  Everything we worry about falls into two prevalent categories: i. The Things We Can Change: this comprises of our reactions, decisions, actions, attitudes, habits, style, environment, quality of life and beliefs. ii. The Things We Can't Change: this comprises of facts, chance occurrences, and other people's philosophies of life.  Hence, judging from the insights above we need never have to worry about nothing if we can or cannot change it. However, what we should do instead of indulging the act, worrying; are: practicing mindfulnes

There are two of you in you, let both coexist; because you can survive, but not live with a single identity. ~ Tapan Ghosh An alter-ego is a second-self, the opposite of who you usually are and your presonality; it is a persona created by an individual–usually to live out a better version of the self. For example, A few years back, American singer and songwriter Beyoncé Knowles created an alter-ego which she named Sasha Fierce. She described Sasha as being fun, sensual, glamorous, and aggressive. Beyoncé let Sasha out when she was on stage. This AE protected Beyoncé’s self-identify as someone who was reserved and very ladylike.  Likewise, in comic books, Peter Parker works as a photographer for the Daily Bugle but, has a crime-fighting AE who makes an appearance when needed, Spider-man. Jane McGonigal, PhD, explains in her book "SuperBetter: The Power of Living Game fully" that alter-egos can help give us distance from ourselves. This can help us deal better wit

In my humble opinion, I think it's always more rewarding when people take job offers in industries that they can have fun at - yes! fun, work should always be play because those few who truly excel and stand out in their industry are those who play their best game in a field where many basically just work.  You know what's worse than fooling others - right, fooling yourself. It's nice to welcome people's good wishes and standards for you, but you will almost never feel as fulfilled in life as much as when you follow your core childhood dreams. Majority of our most productive years would be spent at work, therefore it is important that we choose career paths or accept jobs that we truly are wired for - in terms of natural abilities.  Stop playing it safe, stop doing it to have others' approval, stop doing it to impress - Start doing it for you, for impact, for the audience that really wants to have a piece of your uniqueness.  Your childhood interests, pa

Progress and Productivity are never the same thing as being "Busy" - you can actually be very busy and still remain stuck at the same level for eon, and that's not the same as being productive. Presently, we live in a world where tonnes of "life-transforming" information and resources can be accessed in just about a short period of time; from eBooks, to videos, and podcasts, literally there's no excuse not to make progress in the direction you truly desire at this time in history.  The underlying problem with this information overload is, over-consumption of unnecessary-yet-irresistible information can leave you directionless in life. Yes my dear, it is true that no knowledge is a waste; but have you ever stopped to consider how much you stunt growth in your true-north (areas of greater impact)  by jumping at every opportunity presented to you. I get it, you mostly jump at these opportunities for fear of missing out or be

Isn't it funny how successful some people brand themselves to be on the internet, and constantly exude a persona which makes you feel like you're lagging behind in life; until you actually see them struggling in reality and then realize what grave mistake you made thinking so poorly about the progress you've been making in your life. My dear you see, you're not alone in this self-imposed comparison trap - almost everybody is guilty of this. But don't get me wrong, comparison isn't a bad thing in itself, but how we choose to go about it. You would agree with me that not all fingers are equal, you would also agree with me that variety is the spice of life; well, if we're on the same page then you'd further agree with me on the fact that our personal values, talents, abilities and areas of peak performance differ. What then is the essence of being bitter about not having something that doesn't truly define your uniqueness.  Ou

"Courage is resistance to fear, mastery of fear, not absence of fear." — Mark Twain  Did you know that an estimated 70% of people experience " Impostor Syndrome " at some point in their lives, according to a review article published in the International Journal of Behavioral Science.  Yes, more often than not we fail to see how much this feeling of self-doubt suppresses our courage to go after new opportunities, explore potential areas of interest, and put ourselves out there in a meaningful way. Impostor Syndrome, the idea that you’ve only succeeded due to luck and not because of your talent or qualifications; was adopted by clinical psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes in 1978, after studies showed that despite obvious adequate external evidence of accomplishments, most successful people remained convinced that they don’t deserve the success they have and often dismiss it as luck, good timing, or as others’ believing they were smar

The concept of digital well-being revolves around creating and sustaining a healthy relationship with technology, which has become a part of our daily lives. It involves how technology can serve us and move us closer towards our goals rather than distract us from our goals and make us unproductive. Maintaining a healthy digital diet helps us to improve our relationship not just in our private life, but also at work.  You see, in this age, technology is such an important part of our lives, that it's unreasonable to talk about disconnecting from it entirely.   Hence, it becomes crucial for us to consciously gain control over our digital habits and digital behaviors, as this will enable us to actually find the right balance that works for us. Nevertheless, some options that can help you consciously improve your relationship with technology are: 1. Digital Guidelines: These refer to apps or specific technologies, designed to help you get greater digital control. 

Research has shown that social media distorts our perception of reality and of what other people’s lives really look like. However, the major challenge/misconception is that we take into account how we’re doing in life through comparisons to everyone else, and since most people only post positive things on social media, that gives us a very biased perception of reality…for example, If we are constantly exposed to great news, we risk evaluating our own lives as less good. There have also been plenty of studies that reveal correlations between heavier social media use and depression, feelings of envy, isolation and lower self-esteem. Nevertheless, I believe social media is also a great self-development platform which spurs positive exposure to several forms of life-enhancing information (resources/contents), and also serves as a great avenue through which we all can connect healthily to those who we love, look up to and appreciate. In conclusion, I believe

Wow! Yesterday was fantastic for me because after church service (yes, this article was written before Covid19), I took a walk in the park with a friend of mine who I had not seen in years since I graduated high school. We talked, observed nature, laughed, and also got to learn some new stuff from each other - it was one of the best times I've had in a long time and it also inspired me to write this piece...  Enjoy!  Being outdoors is fun, but even more importantly, it’s good for the brain, body, and soul. Scientific studies reveal that what we see, hear, or experience at any point in time does not only alter our mood, but also how our nervous, endocrine, and immune systems function. YOU SHOULD SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE BECAUSE: Nature Soothes: Scientists believe that breathing in phytoncides which are airborne chemicals produced by plants increases our levels of white blood cells, helping us fight off infections and diseases. Over the years recent st

“You are not entitled to your opinion. You are entitled to your informed opinion. No one is entitled to be ignorant.” ~ Harlan Ellison As humans, we’re often defensive or even scared of things we don’t understand, know little - nothing about, or things we will never understand because we aren’t affected by them directly nor indirectly. The only way out is to unlearn our prejudices and learn to be accepting of others if we truly care about ourselves and want to get the best out of others. Labeling others can make us feel more superior, but that’s not a good habit to get into. In utmost simplicity, the term " LABELING " means to incompletely describe someone or something by using a word or a short phrase to highlight one particular trait of that person over their other traits. For example, describing a person as "toxic" and negating other positive truths about them.  Researchers began to study the cognitive effects of "labeling" in t

We don't see things as they are. We see them as we are. ~ Anais Nin _____ The word perception comes from the Latin "perception-, percepio ," meaning "receiving, collecting, action of taking possession, apprehension" with the mind or senses. In contemporary psychology, perception is the brain’s interpretation of sensory information so as to give meaning to it. In the field of psychology, the Implicit Personality Theory acknowledges the patterns we use in forming impressions about other people, despite having minute information about them. According to Aronson et al, 2010; social perception refers to the ability to make accurate interpretations and inferences about other people from their general physical appearance, verbal, and nonverbal patterns of communication. However certain factors come into play to shape or even distort perception, which domicile in: In the perceiver; these include the perceiver's Att

Faith Without Works Is Dead  ((James 2:14-26)) - - Inspirational Quotes Won't Get You There, Action Does. ~ Dan Lok In a nutshell, of course inspirational quotes and motivation speech give you the pump you need to fire your engine (mind); but the fact is, you still need good old fashioned discipline for self-drive (taking the required action) to actually get you from start point A to destination Z.  Therefore I encourage you today not just to feel inspired/motivated, but to actually take that leap of faith by eating the ugly frog (doing the necessary work) TODAY.... No Procrastination 🚫

Ellen Degeneres once said "To me, beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are" and I totally agree with her. Sadly, over the years I have  come in close contact with people (friends & acquaintances, women & men, adults & children, straight & gay, single & married alike) who don't feel secure in their own bodies. Some of these beautiful individuals either feel unattractive, uncomfortable in their own bodies, ashamed or just wish they had someone else's body. Based on talks and studies, I realized that these insecure feelings were majorly as a result of the  physique junk being dished by mainstream media, and body shaming from close friends, family and relevant others they've had to be in close contact with. Nonetheless, the fact still remains that you are perfect; so stop wishing you looked like someone else, wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else, hating y

Researchers often say that the formula to making a great first impression include: smiling , making eye contact, being engaging and agreeable. Sadly, first impressions lose their impact, especially when there's no substance beneath the surface glow. Hence, becoming a person who is genuinely likable over the long haul becomes harder because maintaining great relationships, consistently influencing others positively and making people feel better about themselves; are things quite a lot of people don't get too well. But you actually can, because being a likable person has nothing to do with your level of achievement, eloquence, fashion taste, nor the image you project; but rather, in what you do for others. STUDIES REVEAL THAT LIKABLE PEOPLE EXERCISE THE FOLLOWING IN A SINCERE AND AUTHENTIC MANNER TOWARDS OTHER PEOPLE: They shift the spotlight to others with generous "praise" for things they do well, which in turn makes them feel a little more accomplished an

When you live without discipline, You die without dignity - Book Of Chris Seven Ways to Improve Your Self-Discipline: 1. Believe that you can succeed and set about doing just that. First and foremost, you must have complete faith in your abilities, and courage to take immediate action. 2. Learn to roll with the punches. Do not give in to pressures. Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you take care of the big things, the little things will take care of themselves. 3. Get busy achieving your goals. If you just do it, get busy following your plans and achieving your goals, you will soon forget why they cannot be done. 4. Always be aware of the positive elements of hope. Do not get into a rut. Hope is life and life is hope. 5. Have complete confidence in your ability to find a solution to any situation or circumstance. Know that you know that you know. Know that there is always a solution. Reformulate the situation or circumstance in a way that facilitates solution or resolution. F

1. ON RISK TAKING: Keeping your life cheap and flexible for as long as you can is a powerful way to master the art of risk taking. When people get used to a comfortable life, a predictable job, and a reputation of succeeding at whatever they do, it gets very hard to leave that behind (and people have an incredible ability to always match their lifestyle to next year’s salary). Even if they do leave, the temptation to return is great. It’s easy—and human nature—to prioritize short-term gain and convenience over long-term fulfillment.  It’s often easier to take risks early in your career; you don’t have much to lose, and you potentially have a lot to gain. Once you’ve gotten yourself to a point where you have your basic obligations covered you should try to make it easy to take risks. Look for small bets you can make where you lose 1x if you’re wrong but make 100x if it works. Then make a bigger bet in that direction. 2. ON FOCUS: It is much more important to work on the righ

Way too much emphasis have been placed over the years on productivity, hyper-efficiency, and making the most productive use of every last minute; to the point that people work longer hours, constantly check their emails, and are often focused on "Getting More Done." But to what end? Is it to produce more in order to make more money for corporations? Or could it be to make more money for ourselves at the expense of our personal health? Or just to hold on to our jobs (jobs we might not like anyway) just to appear relevant ? On the flip side though, It’s actually possible we’re trying to get more done because we love doing it — and if that’s the case, that’s wonderful. But even then, working long hours and neglecting the rest of life isn’t always the best idea. Sometimes it’s healthy to "Get Less Done," to relax, to breathe.  Sadly, people have forgotten how to relax, how to let go and just enjoy life. Some Tips : Take some time daily to go outside for a wa